enfp

In Myers Briggs land, I am an ENFP. Formerly an ENFJ, with some J holdovers for sure, like list-making and calendars and scheduling. But I also do these things to calm and combat my naturally raging P. I find that most things I read on ENFP's are pretty right on, both in strengths and potential areas for growth.

If you haven't heard of this assessment, I would encourage you to check it out:
www.16personalities.com. It isn't for everyone, and not all find things that speak to them or that they strongly identify with. For me, probably because I score highly on most of the 4 measures (what the letters stand for), I find it to be a pretty accurate descriptor and a useful tool in better understanding myself, and improving my interactions with people. It's good to know what others are in your life too so you can see where you rub- awareness is the first step, and then learning to self-modulate and be adaptable to other's personality types is the goal for relational harmony. Understanding and valuing difference goes a long way towards this.

I've worked on this quite a bit over the last few years. I value knowledge and wisdom, so I enjoy learning and personal development. Working at an organization committed to helping people better understand themselves and their leadership potential, I am exposed to these assessment acronyms regularly, and they have rubbed off on me to say the least. There are plenty of other assessment tools besides this one, and they supplement each other nicely to give you a fuller picture.

Learning what gives and drains you of energy, your preferences in relating to the world, how you make decisions (heart or head, very crudely), and how you control and act gives you power to navigate life in a more intentional way.

This is a classic ENFP quote - I can relate! Happy
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the gift of the present.

I feel alive. Present. For the first time in quite a while. I have a migraine, and vision in my left eye is blurry. But this is mostly a big nuisance- I still feel this clear feeling. It's a lovely summer evening, 8:25pm, and I've got the front door open, shades up on the window, and have reached out to neighbors I've lived next to for years and haven't officially met. I'm putting myself out there, and am more available than I've been. It is an energy shift. A happy one!

Maybe it's because I'm on the cusp of finally digging into the thing that my life has been waiting for me to do. It's finally time, and I have arrived at the place where I'm ready to move forward, instead of just wondering and thinking about it.

One thought is that there are NO MORE DISTRACTIONS. It's interesting how some of us have to push ourselves to the brinks to launch the change we have been desiring for long periods of time. I have no financial distractions, because I have no money to spend. It's peaceful in a way it hasn't been previously. I know that it is leading to the next step for me. I have no relationship distractions. As I've mentioned in a recent post, my life has been eerily quiet (my cousin, recently visiting from Spain, called Greensboro "Spooksville" Happy!

This is the first time in I don't know how long that I am home at a reasonable hour, no where to rush off to, taking the time making a semi-proper evening meal for myself. I found a bottled spiced apple cider in the fridge, and am making a club sandwich. Seems crazy I'm sure that these things would be remarkable, but most of the time I don't slow down long enough to breathe. I'm appreciating the little things that could be taken for granted, and it's a really nice feeling. The absence of some things makes other things more apparent.

My club sandwich
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Tonight's view from my back steps
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